What is a successful person?
When you think of successful people, what comes to mind? Wealth, fame, freedom to travel, freedom of working when you want and how you want? Maybe you think that successful people have to sacrifice some part of their lives in order to be successful. Maybe they have poor relationships, they aren’t healthy, they have addictions, or they’ve sacrificed their personal lives at all costs.
When you consider who a successful person is, which criteria do you use? Are they wealthy, famous, wise, in great health, have good relationships with those around them, are kind to others–what makes a person successful by your definition? Do they have to be living their passion or do they have to be successful in a job they’ve learned to do well in and just tolerate?
Success is relative. It is the meaning you attach to it. If you define success as someone who is wealthy but must sacrifice everything else on the periphery of their lives or someone who is famous, I don’t want to argue about your definition, but rather suggest there is a better one. Successful people live a life that is born out of their own passion–they work at jobs they love, whether it is working for themselves or for others. They love their jobs whether it is being a janitor, a CEO, or a stay-at-home parent because of their attitudes. Successful people are successful because they focus on all aspects of their lives and feel fulfilled in many or all of them–their relationships, their health, their career and finances, their environment, and they have learned to balance recreation and work in their lives–a balance that is right for them. They may not be rich, they may not be famous, but they are happy.
Successful people define life by their terms, not someone else’s.
Defining Success for Yourself
How do you define success for yourself? Is it material wealth, abundance of pleasure and happiness, a wonderful family life, a fantastic marriage, spiritual growth, or self-actualization? Does success mean all of these things, or just some of them? Success is different for each person. One person may think of their life as successful because they have meaningful connections with the people in their lives, but they do not have much in the way of material possessions. Another person may view themselves as successful and be financially independent and wealthy. There is no “right” way to be successful; it is how it is defined by you. Many people on the spiritual path eschew material wealth, but again, there is no “right” or “wrong,” especially if it enhances your life. Having money to enjoy nice things in life, to create fond memories with family and friends, or to have enough never to worry about bills again–whatever you want is okay because success is about what works for you. How do you define success?